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For Halloween this year, one of my roommates decided it would be a good idea for all of us to dress as the characters of the Wizard of Oz. We did, and it was pretty great, if I do say so myself. As I took dozens, literally dozens, of photos in my brown dress and cat ears and curled hair, I began to think about what all of our characters were looking for: Scarecrow wanted a brain; Tin Man wanted a heart; the Cowardly Lion wanted courage; Dorothy wanted to go home. I realized that each of the characters that we were dressed up as could be related to what you should be when in a relationship, and I am going to break it down for you.
First, there’s the Scarecrow; he was just looking for a brain. My advice to not be like him: have a brain. When it comes to relationships, either existent or nonexistent ones, we tend to make really bad decisions only because we don’t always use our brains that are typically in almost-perfect working condition. So my advice is to not do that, don’t make bad decisions that could potentially ruin your relationship. Here’s a tip: if you have a feeling it’s a bad idea, it probably is…
Next, the Wizard awarded a heart to the Tin Man. This one is also a no-brainer (get it?). When you’re dealing with someone else’s feelings, have a heart and at least try to show some compassion and/or understanding. If you’re planning on ending a relationship, try your best to do it in a way that may cause the least amount of hurt as possible. That sounds ridiculous, but it can be done. Ending relationships almost always suck, and more than likely, it sucks for both of the people involved. So if you have to end it, at least end it in a way that seems decent and doesn’t make you look like a complete jerk; your partner may appreciate the thought you put into ending your relationship.
Then there came the Cowardly Lion; he was the character I portrayed. His whole problem was that he was supposed to be this animal that has always been expected to be a symbol of courage and bravery. Take after the Lion and find your inner bravery. It’s important to be courageous and take risks in life, so just do it. Have the nerve to do that one thing you’ve been thinking about doing for a really long time. Because the only person you’re hurting by not doing that thing, is you.
Finally, there’s Dorothy. Her dream was to go back to her home on the sweet little farm in Kansas. As nice as that sounds, I would advise against it. Listen, home is a great place; important events and happy memories and family traditions all happened there. However, home isn’t always the best place for you. Metaphorically speaking, “home” can refer to an ex-partner that you have a tendency to turn to when other parts of your life are not going so great. You may think that going “home” (i.e., starting things up with your ex again) is a good idea; but more than likely, it’s not. You and your ex didn’t work out for a reason, and that reason is probably still good enough of a reason to not get back together. Home is nice, but it’s not always the best place for you. It’s important to move forward when you outgrow certain people and places in your life.
Most of what the Wizard taught the famous foursome that traveled such great lengths to see him was that what they wanted most dearly was already within them. I think the best advice anyone could give you is to just be honest with yourself with what you want. Knowing what you want is key, so take the time to understand yourself and your desires. Be happy with yourself and make the choices that you believe will make you the happiest.