What should I do if I don’t get along with my roommate?
Dear HaventSleptFor Days,
The bad news is it really sucks when you don’t get along with someone you have to live with, trust me I’ve done it. The good news is that there’s a lot you can do to fix it! Starting with the very easiest option, try talking to your roommate. Make a list of any behaviors or habits they have that bother you and make sure to use the list when talking with them so you don’t get caught up and forget what you wanted to say. It’s important to note that you may also have some behaviors or habits that your roommate doesn’t like so you must be open to working on yourself as well. After giving your roommate a trial period to fix the behaviors from the list, if things are still not working, it might be time to go to the next level. There are a lot of support systems on campus that want to make sure you’re as comfortable as possible. If talking to your roommate doesn’t work, I would recommend seeking out your RA or RD. It also doesn’t hurt to visit the Counseling Center if things are really starting to stress you out. Between Residence Life and the wonderful counselors, there are many different people with many different paths you can take to fix your situation, so be proactive and don’t stress yourself out too much!
I went out last weekend and got a little too drunk, how acceptable is it to do it two weekends in a row?
Let’s preface this by saying I’m all about having a good time. College is definitely a time to have fun and make memories. That being said, you might want to work on making memories you will actually remember. Drinking can be fun, but in my opinion, drinking is only fun if it’s done safely. If you’re outwardly admitting you got a “little too drunk,” maybe you aren’t being as safe as you think. It’s not about your behavior being acceptable two weekends in a row; it’s about your behavior being acceptable at all. No one wants to be the drunken friend who always needs to be taken care of. There are plenty of sober activities on campus that are a lot more fun than waking up with a hangover. But at the end of the day, if you decide drinking is still your go-to activity, try not getting “too drunk,” and being responsible instead. It might just surprise you how much more fun it is to be responsibly buzzed instead of blackout drunk.
I’m in a long distance relationship but I met someone this weekend, what should I do?
This is a really tough question. When it comes to college relationships, I’m big into love, but I’m more into honesty and respect. To be completely honest, college is the only time in your life when you will be surrounded by thousands of kids your own age. You will most likely never again get the chance to live in this kind of environment or experiment with such ease. Relationships can be amazing, but if they’re meant to work, they will. A long distance partner is a lot more likely to stay with you if you tell them you need a break rather than if you cheat on them. There are a lot of amazing people to meet here at Springfield College, and you’re tempting fate thinking you’ve met the one at such a young age. If you’re truly in love, I’m immensely happy for you. But I think if that were true, you wouldn’t have been looking elsewhere this weekend. I would say it’s time to take a break from your long distance lover and explore your options on campus. Ross Geller would definitely agree that a break is better than cheating. Give yourself some time to think things over but definitely don’t make a rash decision either way. Besides, they don’t call it Breaksgiving for nothing.
How do you approach relationships on Tinder?