Ask Mack: Trust Issues and the Grind of a Student Athlete

Photo courtesy of Patrick Kenney.
Photo courtesy of Patrick Kenney.

Ask Mack,

My girlfriend of a year doesn’t trust me, but she has no reason not to. I found her going through my phone the other day and she confronted me about two of my friends (who happen to be girls) that I text daily. She called me a “player” and hasn’t talked to me in two days. What should I do?

-Playerbeingplayed

Dear Playerbeingplayed,

It sounds like you have a case of the jealous girlfriend on your hands. Unfortunately, it happens often, whether you’re the partner of this person, or you’re the jealous one yourself. On the plus side, her jealousy shows how much she loves you in that she doesn’t want to share you with anyone else. On the negative side, it’s super unrealistic to act this way, ESPECIALLY if she is ignoring you. If you’re being honest and you really haven’t ever given her a reason not to trust you, you should point this out to her. You’re allowed to have friends of both genders, and if you’re trustworthy, there is no reason you shouldn’t be able to text people whenever you want. Keep in mind that everyone brings something different to the table, and your girlfriend not being able to trust you might have absolutely nothing to do with you. I’d say it’s time for a serious talk with her, and if she cannot see your side of the argument, I would recommend taking some time away from each other. Maybe then she’ll realize she’d rather share you than not have you at all.

-Mack

Ask Mack,

I am a student athlete on campus. Through high school my grades were good, I had a bunch of friends, and I was still able to play the sport I love. Now I am having trouble balancing everything. I feel like I do not have enough hours in the day. Help me!

-Sportlover

Dear Sportlover,

I’m really sorry to hear that you’re having a hard time balancing everything. I learned the hard way too that playing sports in college is very different than playing sports in high school. I felt that playing a sport was not giving me enough time to get everything else done. I’m not just talking about homework but about other things, too. Some student athletes don’t get the credit they deserve being able to fit everything in so well. I personally had to make the decision to stop playing sports in college in order to fit in everything else. So I made the very difficult decision to stop playing sports in college. At first, I missed being a student athlete very much, but eventually I began to enjoy my time much better. I was not up all hours of the night doing homework and studying. I now had enough time to go out and apply and audition for other things that my practice schedule held me back from doing before. At the end of the day, I had to decide what was most important to me. I knew I wouldn’t be a professional athlete after college, but I did know that my good grades would actually help me in the future. I made a very hard decision, but I know, four years later, it was the right one. It’s definitely time to sit down and think about your priorities and decide if playing a sport is going to be your best option for when you graduate college. Also, don’t forget there are always intramurals!

-Mack

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