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Now, with that said, we have to work on not being afraid of it, because as much as rejection sucks, not doing something for fear of something bad happening is even worse.
I think there is an important lesson that needs to be learned in the process of no longer fearing rejection: knowing your self-worth. Once you accept that you are a great person just the way you are, then you have nothing to worry about. What hurts the most about rejection is that we begin to rethink and overanalyze every move we have ever made and question why we weren’t good enough. Or, at least that’s what I do; I sit and stare and think about all the things I could have done differently in order to have received a different response. Sometimes, the thoughts I have after the fact are worse than the initial act of rejection. But again, that might just be me.
Understanding that the people who reject you have their own reasons for doing so, and it isn’t very fair to hold a grudge or any type of ill-will toward them. People have to make decisions, and there are many factors to consider when making those decisions. It’s important to know that the rejection isn’t supposed to be an attack on you; just that you might not have been the right fit at the right time, whether this means you weren’t the right person to take out on a date, dance with at a party, or sleep with.
Now, with all that said, I also think it is important to not be afraid to reject people either. It sucks from both sides, but agreeing to someone’s invitation with the belief that you’re “just being nice” is not going to help anyone. So if you don’t want to go on that date or if you don’t want to sleep with that person, then don’t. Say “Thanks, but no thanks,” and move on. It hurts to hurt people, but it happens sometimes. Never be afraid to say how you feel and reject someone’s advances. You should never put someone else’s feelings before yours.
We really need to stop being so hard on ourselves. We need to believe that we really are good enough for every act that we try. Take chances, take one every day if you want to. Never stop trying, though, because that’s when you really lose. You lose out on the chance for something great to happen. Let’s not be afraid, let’s be brave, be strong, be ourselves. In the words of the great Dr. Seuss, “Today you are you! That is truer than true! There is no one alive who is you-er than you!” So go ahead and be you, and never be afraid that you aren’t good enough, because you are, it just sometimes takes different people to see that.