Dear Kerri,
I have a serious situation. I am in a class with my crush. He has no idea that I exist. I just sit, trying to mind my own business, but he always keeps drawing my attention back to him. But you will never guess what happened the other day! We were assigned to be in a group project together! I tried to act casual, but I was bursting with excitement on the inside. We have met a few times for the project, and we have talked about the project, but that is it. I feel like this is my opportunity to make myself known, but I am still so shy around him. Should I try to make a move? What should I do?
Love lockdown,
Sappy Sal
Sappy Sal,
You have been bitten by the love bug and it is your decision how to deal with it. You can either go with your feelings or get drowned in the poison of love. College is a time where you have nothing to lose. It is a time where you can do something you have never done before. It sounds like talking to this boy would be a big leap for you. I would say start by asking questions casually when you are working together on a project. Really simple questions like, “How are your classes?”, “How was your weekend?”, and “What are you doing over spring break?” could facilitate into a whole different conversation and you could find things in common. You can also see how he answers the questions. If you are asking questions like the ones above and he only gives you a one word response, he may not be interested, but, if he is answering your questions personally and thoughtfully, maybe you could move onto informal texting conversation and see where it goes from there. Go with the flow and be confident. Being positive can always make a situation seem better. Good luck!
As always,
Kerri
Dear Kerri,
I have no clue what to do. As I am sure you know, room draw is coming up very soon. This is turning into a very stressful situation between me and my friends. We have decided that we all want to room with each other, but the elephant in the room is who is going to room with this one person. They are not particularly clean, have an erratic sleeping schedule and are a chatter box. I am a creature of habit and like to keep my room neat. I really like this person, but I do not think I could live in the same confined space as them. However, I am afraid that because I am the quieter one of my friends I am going to be stuck with them. How do I deal with this situation?
Seriously confused,
Room Draw Rufus
Room Draw Rufus,
This can be a very stressful time for a lot of people on campus, so first off, you are not alone. As much as this is stressing you out, you need to put the situation into perspective. Yes, you will have to room with someone for an entire year and being compatible with each oth-
er is a huge factor. I have two options to suggest that might help you out. One is you raise your voice. If you feel strongly that you could not live with this person you need to say something. It may be awkward and issues might arise at first, but if they are your good friends, they will understand. Second, you could get stuck with this friend, and set down guidelines. Living with another person requires a compromise. If they are your friend you will both have to work hard at accommodating each other. This can be accomplished, and a once thought bad situation, could turn into something promising. If you go down either of these paths and your friends do not support your decisions, you might be seeing characteristics that you would have not seen if this didn’t happen, and maybe a different route would be the best choice for you. Hope this helps and good luck!
As always,
Kerri