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Love, Sex, and No Relationships~ Self-Love

Jackie Imondi
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Some time ago, a close friend of mine challenged me to tell him one thing I liked about myself, once a day, every day. He never gave me a timeline for how long this would go on, but I obliged anyway.

It wasn’t too hard to find things in the beginning; I really did like the way my eyes sparkles in daylight and that I was a talented writer. As time went on, though, it got harder. I had to think longer and really look into myself to find the things that I liked. Eventually, I realized there was a lot I liked about myself, like my ability to create strong and special bonds with people without having known them for very long, how I feel everything so deeply, and the way my laugh gets louder and stronger when I find something to be unreasonably funny. I’m not sure of his intentions of this little project, but it definitely had a positive impact on me.

We are now In a time when curves are making a sexy comeback and beautiful women are singing about how you don’t have to be a size two to be loved. This is a great time for empowerment, and I challenge all of you, yes you, reading this to love yourself.

At the risk of sounding lame, self-love is so important. Loving yourself means accepting yourself, just the way you are. If you aren’t happy with your body, then you have every right to make efforts to change it, but you should also know that you are so beautiful and so handsome the way you are right now. I’m not going to be misleading and tell you that no one will love you unless you love yourself, but what I will tell you is that life gets better when you do love yourself; the days are easier to get through and your smiles come more naturally.

If the idea of loving yourself seems impossible, start small. Do what I did and verbally announce what you like about yourself. One like each day. Post it on Facebook. Get your friends involved, if you want. Allow people to join you on your journey, because finding self-love is a journey. You will have good days and bad days, but that’s life anyway. You’ll get there, though, don’t you worry.

This past week, September 8 through September 14 was National Suicide Prevention Week, with September 10 being National Suicide Prevention Day. If you ever find yourself struggling more than you think you should be, never hesitate to call a help hotline or even the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255). You don’t have to go through anything alone.

Love is simple and love is complicated. We all love it, we all love being in love. So let’s do it. Let’s join together in an endless supply of love. Because without love, there is only indifference, and nothing beautiful comes from indifference.

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