After four semesters of college, one of which was spent abroad, I came back to campus this year with the purpose of getting serious with someone. I have been on campus for less than a week now, and I have already thrown that mentality out the window. I did not give it up because I don’t want a relationship anymore, but because, well, why not?
Relationships in college have become a new sort of taboo: if you want to be in one or if you are already in one, you’re told that you’re crazy for wanting to give up the “college experience.” Apparently, nowadays, the “college experience” involves getting your hands (and other parts) dirty before settling down with Mr. or Mrs. Right.
For girls, or at least the ones I know personally, college seems like a good place to meet a guy that’s intelligent, has goals in life, and cares about gaining an education. For boys, college is a place to rack up their number before being expected to become a productive member of society. But here’s the problem: girls who enjoy having sex are deemed “sluts” and “easy” by their male counterparts, who instead, are referred to as “players” and other adjectives with positive connotations.
Now, I know there are so many girls on campus who could not care less about the double standards that exist or the number of guys they were seen kissing last weekend at one of the houses on King Street. I applaud those girls. I respect any girl who takes on and feeds her desire to hook up with any guy she wants (and I repeat, that she wants). And if you do that, my advice is to own it.
If you enjoy hooking up with people, guys or girls, then be proud of that. You should never be ashamed of your number, no matter how high or how low, nor should you ever share your number with someone that you do not feel comfortable sharing such private information with. And if someone ever shames you for it, then sweetie, move right along because that person is no longer worth your time or respect.
At some point, if we stop being afraid of being sexual beings, then maybe we will lose the negative labels that are stuck to girls who have literally done nothing wrong. If the sex is done safely, with protection, and with consent, then why the H-E-double hockey sticks should we be ashamed of it? Sex on college campuses has gotten a bad rep lately, so let’s just embrace it. We know it happens, so let’s talk about it, and not just the bad stuff.