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As we near the end of the year 2013, we are all well aware how much a role technology plays in our lives. It seems you can’t turn anywhere without seeing a girl tweeting a selfie, or a boy stuck on a level in Candy Crush. But let’s think about what we truly use our cell phones for. No ladies, drunk Snapchatting is not No. 1. A whopping 81 percent of people stated that they used their phone most for texting according to the Pew Internet and American Life Project. Honestly, this number seems low to me. Communication has become so impersonal over the decades that most people prefer to text instead of call.
Now, let’s talk about the pros and cons of this. Any average person would say that this is a bad thing, because you’re losing the personal touches, like hearing the person’s voice or responding in real time. But your SC Sexpert feels differently. One of the main reasons people feel more comfortable texting is because they can say whatever they want in public, with the comfort of extreme privacy. And so my readers, the wonderful concept of sexting was born!
Sexting, while extremely valued by some, is a very slippery slope (pun intended). For the sake of this article, let’s say that sexting includes, but isn’t limited to: flirting over text messages, sending suggestive text messages, and sending naked pictures. Now kids, one of these things is not like the others. Everybody gets caught up in the moment, and often times, people send texts they later regret. This is definitely something to be careful about. Just because you can delete your drunken messages does not mean they are permanently erased everywhere. Sexting can be used positively, but we must remember that what we send cannot be taken back once that send button is hit.
This brings me to my next point. Naked pictures aren’t worth it. Sure, sure, that super hot babe from your organic chemistry class is totally trustworthy, and his abs make him a great candidate for earning your…well we’ll call them “trusts.” NOT. It doesn’t matter how attractive the other person is, there is no telling where this picture will end up if you decide to hit send. And come on now, it doesn’t really matter how great you look in the picture. Do you really want everyone seeing your James Naismith? I didn’t think so.
One of the biggest points of attraction is mystery. If you send your body is a wonderland out into the cyber world, you have no control of what perverts get to see it, and what remains between you and organic chemistry boy. If you’re really that confident about what you have going on, make an informed, sober decision to show that crush in person with confidence. Trust me, confidence (not cockiness) is a huge turn on. If you wait to show and tell in person, you’ll have a much more satisfying result than hitting send and hoping for something back. It just isn’t worth it.
But sexting can be positive, too. It helps shy people bring out the side of them that they normally couldn’t portray. Use this to your advantage! Send that extra winkie face, or get just a little closer to that line that you normally wouldn’t cross. Getting a flirty sext can be the deciding factor for someone to hang out with you, especially if you’re shy in person. Try to keep these few thoughts in mind before hitting send from now on, especially if you’re considering sending a picture, and you’ll be much happier that you did. Waiting until you’re face-to-face will allow you to see the other person’s facial expression. And trust me, that reaction will be well worth your wait. Until next time my sexy readers.